The Last Time

Warm Buns

On the way home from scouts tonight, Danny sat in the front seat as it's just a short drive to our house. He put his heated seat on high and said "I like it on high Mom, it warms my buns".
As I laughed I reached across and held his hand all the way home. He looked at me and gave me his usual shy & genuine smile and said "Love ya mom" at least two times.

I'm only just realizing (duhhh) how important, how wonderful and how fleeting these moments are.

Need a Good Rant

Why do women do it all?

The..

Tidying
Kitchen cleaning & coffee
Gardening
Doctors appointments
Dentist visits
PTA
School communication
Laundry
Homework
School parties
Sports sign-ups
Summer camp sign ups
Vacation planning
Vacation bookings
Vacation packing
Sorting out babysitters
Sorting out pet sitters
Communicating with neighbors for their baby/pet sitting needs
Pet care & vaccinations and medicines
Vacuuming
Polishing
Sending thank you cards or messages for gifts
Buying gifts
Remembering people's birthdays
Buying furniture
Initiating house projects: painting, building, repairing, replacing.
Organizing social activities with friends

And then we work 40 hours a week.

I used to think I could do it all but I can't, Goddammit.   Maybe I should meditate.

What do other woman do?

Election Sickness

Classy

I can't wait for the election to be over. I've voted and I'm DONE and ready to party! Bring on November 9th and let's all try and not hate each other.

I've lived here 17 years this year and never known anything like this.  I don't mean the American public - there's always been far right, far left, & middle people. I've come across nut jobs from all across the spectrum here. But I'm pretty sure they are in every country.
What makes this election different is Donald Trump. He is not the normal candidate as he brings a fresh non-politics approach to the stage and he says what he thinks and he's real.
Apparently.
Let me write that sentence again. He is not the normal candidate (he's fucking completely, stark raving bonkers) and he brings a fresh non-politics approach to the stage (he has no idea about national or foreign policy) and he says what he thinks (he's racist and hates women and gays) and he's real (he's a narcissist who can't see his faults).

I remember November 8th, 2008 so well. I blogged about it, of course. Craig and I held hands in bed and had a little cry of relief and happiness that President Obama and First Lady Michelle got in. Hopefully I'll do the same for the first female President! If we take a step back in evolution and have a President like Trump I'll weep and probably go drinking with my nasty women friends for at least a week. He's too awful.

A 9-month abortion? That's called birth you moron!  And you will ban abortion.

You will de-fund Planned Parenthood who do cancer screenings, pap smears, STD screenings and birth control. Yes, and abortions.

You said you want to "punish" women who have abortions.   No words.

Mexicans are rapists? Bad hombres? Build a wall and make them pay.

Deport Muslims.

Don't allow refugees in.

Stop & frisk.

Nasty women, ugly fat pigs, a "4" at best. You currently have TEN women alleging assault.

The list goes on and on and on.....

He does have views on the economy (don't tax the rich) and health care (repeal whatever Obama did) but then he runs short. No mention of education or social security or anything substantial.

But there's HOPE

Each year my boys' elementary school "votes" for the President as part of the Scholastic learning experience, which is a nationwide vote.  Today they voted. We don't know the answer yet and might not until after the 8th, but the kids across America ALWAYS get it right.   I asked Jack how he thinks it went. He looked at me like I was nuts and said "Mom! Hillary, of course! No one would ever vote for Trump!"

Ohhhhh Jack I hope so.

Dear Boys

I'm writing to you both as I have a lot to say and I want to make sure you know these things in life.

So listen..

Be kind to girls, boys, gays, straights, all skin colors, all races, those who are disabled and all religions. Let's just sum this up by saying BE KIND TO ALL. That includes animals. That's my absolute number one thing I want from you in life - got it? BE KIND.

Interact with people. I know how tempting it is to be on devices all day long but please go hiking or do something to connect with people. Skydive, mountain climb, bungee jump, play chess, be a Pokemon champ. I don't care what it is - please be around other people. Your mental health will need that.

Have a challenge in life. Always be challenged, otherwise you die of boredom and your brain dies.

Don't let others dictate your happiness, EVER. You are in charge of your happiness. Your partner in life is in charge of theirs. If you ever end up in a relationship where your partner puts all their happiness in your lap, please run. Find that special person that is happy in themselves.

Travel a lot, succeed and fail a lot, take risks, make yourself smile and laugh (it works, trust me).

Aim to be on your death bed at 100 years old with stories of stupid and hilarious stuff you did with your friends. I definitely will.

That's it boys.
Kindness, adventure, happiness.
Love you.
Mum xxx