Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Taking Time to Smell the Roses

Mornings are a nightmare. I'm always late getting up and I have a speed-shower chanting "please don't wake up, please don't wake up" because if Jack wakes up he comes to his door and wails "mamaaaaaaa!" until I open it.

Once that door opens it's BOOM - full-on toddler. A barrage of questions and demands and whining and more questions and more demands. I'm trying to dry my hair or make up his packed lunch while half-heartedly replying "uh huh" and "yes love" and "no you can't have another". All of this is done at breakneck speed and I don't calm down and actually breath till we're in the car and on the way to daycare.

So now I've set the scene for my usual morning I'll tell you what happened this morning. We're sat at the table, eating cereal. Well, I'm eating and he's jabbering on and I keep saying "come on, eat your breakfast", using my own spoon to shovel Cheerios in his mouth. I finished before him and told him "mummy's finished" to try and hurry him up. He looked into my empty bowl, looked up at me with total love on his little face and said "mummy share mine?" and tried to feed me with his spoon.

It felt like a big arrow went right through my heart, and hopefully a big thud on the head to say "wake up woman, your son is only this age today!"
So, I promise I'm going to be a better mum in the morning and take time to enjoy our little bit of time together, instead of running around like a lunatic, telling animals to bugger off from under my feet and being impatient with everyone.

This will no doubt change next year when Danny arrives. I'm already getting my knickers in a twist about the stress of getting two kids out the door.

Picture: Jack helping me wash my fat and stupid-looking carrots.


Emily said...

I was JUST thinking about this today. It's so easy to rush rush rush and miss things. Lately right before bed Katy wants to go outside to find the moon and the stars. Of course, I've got my eyes on the prize (toddler in bed) and I'm thinking, "oh, jeez" but really, it's sweet and cute. So I've been taking 5 minutes to take her outside and star gaze (even though we can't see anything in this blasted city).

Oh, and in reaction to your comment about updating my picture on my profile: I've been meaning to, but I keep waiting for the perfect photo, and so far it hasn't happened. I know I should just pick one, I'm such a dork.

Strawberry Jam Anne said...

I think most of us do the same sort of thing - all rush and no "time to smell the roses". I have to keep reminding myself, even now, to enjoy the moment.

A x

Pam said...

Emily: I'm going to start star-gazing with Jack tonight. Thanks for the suggestion! The funny thing is, I hear myself say things to Jack when I'm frustrated and I sound just like my mum! Does that happen to you?

Hi Anne: Yes, we all need a daily reminder to enjoy life. But I'm an Aries & it think that means I'm a lunatic in general.

Oma Froehle said...

One of the coolest things about pre-schoolers is that they live almost entirely in the moment. They don't care about yesterday or tomorrow . . . just now . . . today. Adults live everywhere else but the present. Stay with them, mommies! They are the ones that are right!

Strawberry Jam Anne said...

Pam - I'm an Aries too! That's the explanation then!!

A x

The Dotterel said...

It's so true; life just keeps getting in the way. The worst that happens here is rushing to get to toddler group before the biscuits get eaten!

Expat mum said...

But it is stressful trying to get them out the door I have to say. My solution is to just give them a lot of time. We have a full hour between getting up and leaving, and we barely manage to squeeze everything in. It should be just eating breakfast and getting dressed, but there's always SO much to talk about isn't there?